In the past three weeks I’ve learned about two people I know experiencing the death of a child, one experiencing the death of their favorite niece , one experiencing the death of a best friend, and one other experiencing the death of a former spouse. Four were unexpected with families having no time to prepare. One was expected with experience showing you’re still not prepared.
Death is hard; a child dying parents is unimaginable.
Generally, we are not taught at all on how to handle death in a way that has us coming out stronger on the other side. We don’t know how to deal with grief and as a result are often stuck dealing with confusing emotions, relationships that struggle and lives that can feel like they just don’t work.
Over the years, with no thought on how some things might be useful to others, I’ve been gifted with a couple of writings, a summary of Psalm 23 and a couple of books that have offered me solace and that I’ve shared with others in the hope they experience the same
I’ve yet to meet a person, including myself, who is comfortable with grief – even with their best friends. Many who are grieving don’t know how to share the upset; many on the outside don’t know how to support the process of grieving.
It’s sometimes difficult; if a person learns of the death a while after the fact to know whether or not to acknowledge it thinking that healing may have begun and we’re only impeding the process. This is the situation I’m in in one of the situations mentioned at the top of this blog. I’m choosing to share the readings and one of the books feeling it’s better to send the condolences than not. This is a personal choice – not necessarily right for everyone.
I’m including the titles of the books for anyone interested and both are available from Amazon.
“How to Survive the Loss of a Love” by Harold Bloomfield and two others
“The Grief Recovery Handbook” by John James and Russell Friedman
As for the readings, if you’re interested, please let me know and I’ll email them to you. I can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or at 813-586-1DEB (1332)
This article is a service of London Baker Law, Debbie London Baker, Esq. Here for Your Family Today; Here for Your Loved Ones Tomorrow.